2015 is fast approaching!
It has been a year of huge growth for me, and most of it has occurred in the past few weeks.
Ever since I embarked on my spiritual journey, I have been faced with my demons - the parts of myself that I would normally have repressed. You cannot truly love yourself if you sweep issues or problems you are having under the carpet. This is why my practice has focused so heavily on self love. I truly believe that once you love yourself, you can achieve your highest potential, and you become even more enlightened.
So, New Year's resolutions! It is always a big topic in the spiritual community. This is because setting unrealistic, achievable goals is not in alignment with a practice of self-love. One of the most toxic resolution is 'to lose weight'. The vague aim of thinning down is not going to bring about anything positive.
I know this, for it was one that I set myself for 2013. I did lose weight, but I was certainly no happier, or healthier. To accompany this, I gave myself the goal of giving up chocolate for a year. When I failed it in February, I was incredibly disheartened. I felt ashamed and guilty. I had let myself down.
At the bottom of this resolution, was a cry out for some self love. I had told myself that I would only love myself when I lost weight, had a flat stomach, became more attractive... and this left me in a place of self loathing. I was not losing weight in a positive or healthy way, I was restricting my food intake and belittling myself, which seemed to form motivation for me. It was a spiral of self loathing, leading to low self esteem and depression.
Anyway, this just illustrates why I feel that if you chose to have any New Year resolutions, they should be carefully thought through.
So, here I propose a new resolution, that you can use throughout your life.
I was inspired by a video I saw by Teal Swan. The video and other links are posted below.
Since most New Year's resolutions are not compatible with self love, it would nourish the spirit if it was replaced with one that was compatible. Imagine if every decision/action was executed in accordance with the mantra:
What would someone who loved themselves do?
someone who loved themselves would do?
Imagine the changes that would occur in your life if you spent 365 days loving yourself purposefully! After this, it would become engrained in you psyche, allowing you to really transform your life.
I am going to try it! This resolution is different, since it is not one that you either pass or fail, it is one that allows you to act in a loving way towards yourself, radiating out to others. It reminds me of a meditating - consciously being aware of thoughts. If you 'slip up', and make a decision that is not one that is in alignment with self love, it is not the end of the world. We are all human and we make mistakes. If you slip up, the most loving thing to do would be to forgive yourself, and to continue on the path of self love. It is a journey, and not a destination, which this mantra acknowledges, unlike many other resolutions.
Sending hippy vibes and Cammy love to you all!
Wishing you a Happy New Year!